You may not realize it until late into your life that you spend most of your time trying to please others or make them happy. Many people start to do this at a very young age to be accepted or liked or approved. If you were judged continuously as a young child and never felt like you were good enough, you most likely fell into trying to prove yourself.
If you spend all your time pleasing others, it might make you happy or fill you up at the moment, and it might not. It is dependent on whether or not what you are doing is something you love to do anyway and want to do it for the pure thrill of happiness deep within you. You might find yourself frustrated because you are always doing too much for everyone else that you find you have too little time for yourself. Did you learn n your early years that it better to look for approval than to look within and discover what makes you happy?
When you go through the process of journaling as shared in The BEING Zone book (launching in June 2020) to clear old beliefs and blocks that have caused you pain in your life and begin to focus on what makes you happy and fills you up, you can transform your life. Not matter how old you are.
It doesn’t work to keep doing what you have always done while expecting different results. You have to learn to listen to your body and what feels right and do the things that feel good to you deep inside your soul. Learning to find your authentic voice and listen to your heart will help you find your true self. Beginning to follow your soul’s call for the first time instead of always trying to live up to someone else’s expectations.
What I have found is when people recognize their tendencies and make a conscientious decision to think and act differently based on feelings, they will find happiness. To get started today, start journaling from your heart. Keep it positive. Write about all the things you love to do so much that you get lost in time and space when you do them. Find something that takes your breath away.
Commit to adding some of these Happiness-Boosting activities into your life. The more you are doing things that make you happy, the better you will feel. I had a client who was continually taking care of everyone but herself. She made sure there were hot meals that her family enjoyed on the table every night based on their schedule. She would jump and help anyone and everyone that needed assistance in any way sometimes at a cost to her happiness and health.
She started working with me and discovered that many of her ailments had to do with this belief system that she wasn’t enough, had to prove herself and gain approval and acceptance. Once we cleared this belief from her subconscious, she began to heal and change how she was responding to life. She started making conscientious decisions on what she would and wouldn’t do based on how it felt to her. If it felt good or she was excited about it, she would do it. If not, she learned to say no. She began to realize that people still liked her even when she said no.
As she learned, “follow your heart, and you will find happiness within.”
What are you doing in your life that you would like to change? If you want to learn more tools and techniques to help you clear old beliefs and move into your happy zone, sign up to be alerted to when The BEING Zone book and it’s companion journal is published in June 2020. It is a step by step transformational guidebook that will help you rediscover, reconnect, and heal your life!
